A test for your marriage


This test may help to open lines of communication.

Note the symptoms that you think apply in your relationship with your partner. Discuss the one you feel most strongly about.

If it helps, write to each other about the symptom you are most concerned about. Compare notes, in a quiet relaxed atmosphere, and not too late at night when you are over-tired.

No. Questions   True False Comments
1. We seem to compete with one another.        
2. I feel nagged or over-supervised.        
3. I feel bored and lonely.        
4. I don't think we're interested enough in each other's problems.        
5. We seem to be in a rut.        
6. There is too much rudeness, teasing, sarcasm or just plain insults.        
7. Sometimes, it seems that there are others who understand me better than you do.        
8. I find it easier to watch TV, socialize, have a drink, or feign illness rather than talk about our relationship.        
9. It seems to me that our relationship has cooled off.        
10. I feel left out of the planning.        
11. We seem to take each other for granted.        
12. I think we quarrel too frequently.        
13. A lot of our conversation seems superficial.        
14. I miss your thoughtfulness and small courtesies.        
15. I seem to have the main responsibility when it comes to the children.        
16. I miss a sense of romance in our marriage.        
17. There seems to be a rise in the frequency of headaches and other excuses that stop us having sex.