Divorce and re-marriage

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Divorce

The Bible sets down conditions which allow divorce: chiefly in circumstances where there has been physical abuse (Malachi 2:15,16) or adultery (Matthew 5:32). Although the Bible allows divorce for these reasons, that doesn't mean that someone must divorce if a spouse commits one of these offences. The element of forgiveness is also important. (1 John 1:9)

The Bible says that God "hates" divorce. Divorce requires the breaking of a covenant. (Malachi 2:14-16) It also leaves many hurts for the couple concerned, since it takes time for people to grow apart and it can hurt any children involved and the wider family. However, God's grace is available to heal the hurts.

God allows divorce for the above conditions because of our "hardness of heart". (Mark 10:3-8) This is illustrated perfectly when one spouse refuses to change or admit any wrongdoing.

The highest goal for churches and leaders of churches in the area of marriage is to pray and offer counsel and advice to save marriages. However, if a marriage does end in divorce, churches also have a responsibility to minister love, healing, and acceptance to all those involved.

Remarriage

1 Corinthians 7:27 shows that some Christians were contemplating divorce, even in the early days of the Church. The second part of the passage states that those who have divorced should not immediately marry again - on the rebound.

Statistics in the United States, show that 80% of second marriages end in divorce. People often divorce merely for so-called "incompatibility" or to try "a new experience."

1 Corinthians 7:28 shows that remarriage is not sinful, but it takes work.