"The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely; she comforts, encourages and does him only good, as long as there is life within her."

Proverbs 31:29-30Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness] but you excel them all. A woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord: she shall be praised."

In this study we are going to look at how the "Joyful Woman" sees the number one "King of her heart": God Himself. We need to know who we are "comforting, encouraging and doing only good" to. If we had a true revelation of how much He really "trusts us, relies on us", believes and loves us, we would have no problem obeying His every request and satisfying His every need.

How God sees us

The "King of our hearts" compliments us on our excellence as He is excellent Himself. Our King is a leader and is known for His wisdom, good ideas and top position all over the world; yet He loves to spend time with us in our living room, or cardboard box, or wherever we live. His attitude does not change wherever He is, because He is Love.

God has the prominent position in heaven where He sits among the four living creatures, who never stop saying, "Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty, Who was and Who is and Who is to come". At the same time, "The twenty-four elders fall prostrate before Him who sits on the throne and they worship Him who lives for ever and ever. They throw their crowns before the throne and cry out: You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honour and power, for You created all things, and by Your will they were created and have their being." (Revelation 4:7-11)

So we have been both created (Psalm 139:13) and kept alive by our King to be excellent in all we do. (Acts 17:24-28) As we are moved at everything these verses tell us, we need to choose to worship Him and give Him the place in our hearts that He is due. We then make ourselves available to hear His voice and He will reveal His love for us.

As we look at God’s love for us, our character is strengthened, even as we choose to excel in all we do with Him, offering everything as worship to Him, in the power of the Holy Spirit. Remember when Jesus taught us to pray: "Your will be done on earth, as it is in heaven"? (Matthew 6:10) As everything is excellent in heaven, God’s will is for it to be that way on earth; that is the "Joyful Woman’s" standard.

How we should see God

As we look to Jesus, we get to know God better. (John 1:18; John 14:9) Jesus did everything with excellence. We are also well able to achieve this because it does not take intelligence, education, background or privilege; we simply need to walk in His Spirit, just like Jesus. He Himself said: "I do nothing on my own, but speak just what the Father has taught me. The one who sent me is with me. He has not left me alone, for I always do what pleases Him." (John 8:28,29) This should be the heart’s desire of each one of us: just to please Him and be excellent in everything we put our hand to. "Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect." (Matthew 5:48)

He gave us His Holy Spirit so that we would have the power to live our lives like Jesus: in total victory. He also shows us amazing grace and mercy, even to all those who want nothing to do with Him. (Psalm 145:9,17) That shows truly unconditional love. "He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you. He will quiet you with His love. He will rejoice over you with singing." (Zephaniah 3:17) In Proverbs 31:10-31, we see that God does not keep quiet about His love. He knows how to make us feel like a million dollars when the world tells us the opposite. He has written us a very long love letter: the Bible. We do not have to charm Him, seduce Him, compete with others for His attention, or pretend to be something we are not. We do not have to convince God to love us; we just have to learn to accept His love. The love of God is "shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit." (Romans 5:5) The "King of hearts" will continue to love us, even if we do not respond to this amazing love.

Our King in heaven trusts us. That is why He sent His Holy Spirit so that we can cry, "Abba! (Father!)" He knows that even though we come from dust, we can still speak up for Him. We can love the unlovely, follow the promptings of His Holy Spirit, deal with sin (accepting the blood of Jesus' sacrifice for us) and choose to walk in obedience. He believes that He can get His work done in the world, in and through us, so that He can come again soon. He trusts us to choose to follow Him, even through painful times. He trusts us to clean our spiritual house just as diligently as the "Joyful Woman" cleaned her physical house.

He wants everything that goes on in our bodies - His Temple - to be pleasing to our King, so that He can have free rein in our lives. Jesus said: "I tell you the truth: unless a grain of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But, if it dies, it produces many seeds. The one who loves his life will lose it, while the one who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. Whoever serves me must follow me and, where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honour the one who serves me." (John 12:24-26) God seeks to have first place in every part of our lives, including our relationships, time, work and money. Nothing can be excluded. Moment by moment, we have to choose to please our King rather than ourselves or other people.

This means choosing time alone with Him, reading His word and obeying the leading of His Spirit. It means regularly praying: "Search me, O God and know my heart. Test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting." (Psalm 139:23,24) As we saw in study eleven, "the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." It is so important that God has good reason to praise us. That will happen as we recognise that, when we start our walk with Him, we only have a small amount of wisdom, but it grows as we walk closer and closer with Him and it will continue for ever.

Looking to the future

The "King of our heart" is to be our bridegroom one day soon. He has gone before us to prepare a mansion for us and, at the right time, He will come and take us to Himself. (John 14:1-3) We will then have a fantastic banquet, to which all who have the appropriate clothing (those who are born again) are invited. (Matthew 22:1-14)

We need to recognise that the time is short and we must put the remaining time to good use, with a sense of urgency and expectancy. Jesus is coming to take us away and we shall be by His side. Whatever time of night or day that may be, we need to be prepared, walking in holiness and obedience by the power of the Holy Spirit. (Matthew 25:1-13)

Every "Joyful Woman" on earth will earn her final reward. (1 Corinthians 3:13-15; Ephesians 6:7,8) The King Himself will meet her at the entrance to the celestial city. "Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates." (Proverbs 31:31) He Himself will be her "exceeding great reward". (Genesis 15:1 and Genesis 26:24)

She will not be with Him at the gates and among the elders of the heavenly land because of the things that she has done, but because the bride-price was paid and she has been married to her heavenly bridegroom. When we see that the "King of our Heart" is satisfied with us and enjoying our company, this is the best reward that we could wish for and focus our lives on. What a great thought to fill our hearts with rejoicing and praise!

The Character of God

He is:

  • Spirit - (John 4:21-24)
  • Light (no darkness) - (1 Timothy 6:16; 1 John 1:5; 1 John 2:5)
  • Faithful - (Exodus 34:5-6; Psalm 36:5; Psalm 89:2; Psalm 145:13)
  • Forgiving - (Exodus 34:7; Numbers 14:17,18; 1 John 2:1)
  • Loving - (Psalm 5:7; John 3:16-17; Romans 5:5-8; 1 John 4:8-16)
  • Sinless - (1 John 3:5)
  • Ever living (immortal) - (1 Timothy 6:16; 1 John 5)
  • Truthful - (1 John 5:9) 
  • Strong - (Numbers 14:17,18; Psalm 145:14)
  • Slow to anger - (Numbers 14:17,18)
  • Compassionate - (Exodus 34:7; Psalm 145:8,9)
  • Just - (Exodus 34:7; Psalm 145:20)
  • Jealous - (Exodus 34:14)
  • Gracious - (Psalm 145:8)
  • Righteous - (Psalm 36:10; Psalm 145:17)
  • Infinite, limitless greatness - (1 Chronicles 29:11; Job 11:7-10; Psalm 145:3; Isaiah 40:12-31)
  • Everlasting (eternal) - (Isaiah 43:10; Isaiah 44:6; Revelation 1:8)
  • Creative - (Psalm 36:9; Acts 17:24)
  • Awe-inspiring - (Hebrews 12:29)
  • Powerful - (Psalm 104)
  • Light-hearted - (Psalm 2:4; Psalm 37:12-13)

Click on the button below to load the QUESTIONS for this study in a new browser tab. You can opt to print the question sheet or simply follow the questions and write down your answers in a notebook or a separate file on a computing device, such as a laptop or mobile 'phone.